How often do you reach a point where you are uncertain how to move forward?
This could be at work, on a project, in a relationship or about life in general. Too often we create barriers where none really exist, or we anticipate changes ahead that seem impossible to navigate.
I find that being in the moment is not always helpful. It can be grounding, but often does not present a solution. It often takes shifting one’s perspective to the “30 thousand foot view” to really get the bigger picture—pun intended!
When you feel stuck, imagine yourself as viewed by someone else from afar. This someone could be a friend or relative—one who cares about you, is kind and supportive.
What might they say or observe about you that could really resonate? Maybe it’s something you already know but just haven’t been able to really see clearly. Or, perhaps it’s something completely new that really makes you think.
Another technique is to imagine what advice your future self would be giving your current self. Think about yourself 10 years older giving you life advice.
Wow, I can think of nobody better to really know what makes you tick and the obstacles you are currently facing. Your future self’s words of wisdom would be priceless.
Not everyone likes to journal, but sometimes writing down your thoughts, anxieties, fears and doubts can be revealing when re-read at a later date—such as tomorrow!
This doesn’t have to be a formal journal or diary, but could be just a random download of thoughts running through your head that somehow get a bit more organized on paper or in an electronic document. Sometimes the most profound realizations come from reading one’s own writing.
I’m also a strong proponent of physically stepping away. It could be as simple as going for a walk in the neighborhood to look at flowers, cats, dogs and the clouds in the sky.
Or, it could be going on a day trip for a hike with a friend, or a lunch or coffee date. The break in routine can be a much needed respite for our brains that can get stuck on a task or problem.
It’s also important to realize that we don’t need to problem-solve in a vacuum. It can be healthy to collaborate with a colleague, a close friend, a therapist or other supportive professional when it comes to wrestling with an issue at hand.
You may be surprised to realize that almost everyone else is also on a similar life journey. Staying connected is golden.
So just remember that staying put is fine, being in the moment is necessary, but there are many ways to move forward and past being stuck.
You’ve got this!